The genesis of this project was a chance conversation my wife and I had one evening in Tempe, Arizona with a group of single LDS women. Because Jennifer and I had only been married a relatively short time and I had been single for so long before getting married, our friends were eager to talk about potential solutions to the vicissitudes of being a single Mormon over the age of 25.
After that conversation, I was struck by how much we can want good things, the things we’ve been told to strive for, and how confused and lost we can feel when we are doing all we can to achieve those goals but are still not succeeding.
As a consequence of the conversation in Tempe, I wrote a brief ebook - Sailing Single-Handed: A Navigation Guide for LDS Singles - which is available as a free download on this site.
I learned some valuable lessons during 30 years of single adulthood and thought it might be worthwhile to share them in the hopes of alleviating some of the fear and confusion and, perhaps, providing insights that might catalyze a relationship.
I’m not a psychologist or a life coach. All I have are my experiences. My hope is that they will be of value to someone who is in the midst of the same journey I was embarked upon for so long.
While single adults are a rapidly growing demographic group in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, being single in this traditionally family-oriented church continues to pose a special set of challenges. Sailing Single-Handed is a discussion of the problems LDS singles face and an attempt to present solutions to some of those problems.
The book begins from a position of faith and assumes a desire to actively participate in the religious as well as the social life of the church. But it addresses issues in an unvarnished way from the perspective of those who have actually coped with these challenges. Perhaps the central question it tries to answer is how to find happiness while facing the trials of being a single Latter-day Saint.
Married members of the Church, including ecclesiastical leaders, often offer their single friends well-intended counsel that is completely disconnected from the reality of single life. Sailing Single-Handed is an approach rooted in my personal experiences of the author and the many single friends and acquaintances I made over many years as a bachelor.
The book is intended to offer hope for those who want so badly to be married, but despair that the opportunity will never present itself.